This morning, I came to the realization my black feminism can be summarized in a short four word phrase: we all we got. Y’all, I’m tired. Tired of trying to push my way into white feminism to forge some semblance of solidaritybecause to white feminism, black women only exist when they need to make a point.
I also sick of trying to justify my black feminism to black men and making accommodations for them while I’m not granted the same courtesy. Black men seemingly can’t fathom the idea that their maleness affects how they treat black women and when we call them on it, they swear we’re betraying the community.
As a black woman, I’m constantly asked to choose between my gender and my race. I’ve always refused to choose either one but my mind has changed. I choose both. I choose my black womaness. In this world, such a declaration would be considered revolutionary to some because black women are constantly pressured to prioritize the community and issues affecting black men. My priorities begin with myself and my sisters. That doesn’t mean I am no longer pro-black or won’t stand in solidarity with non-black women but the interests of black women come first in my writings and community work.
By now, I’m sure there are people reading this with their panties in a wad despite the sentence that preceeded this one. In the past, that might have stopped me from writing this article but at this point, hurt feelings aren’t my issue. The same people that might be offended by this article would probably justify Nelly’s grudge with Spelman College or argue for Lily Allen using a bevy of black ass and bodies to make a point. Why should I check for movements or people that ain’t checking for me?
Nelly and Lily Allen are only two examples out of several. Sisters, as I said in the beginning, we all we got. Let’s cherish and fight for each other. If we inspire others to help us, cool, but I’m not holding my breath.
Everyone else, if you made it to the bottom of this article congratulations.You don’t have to agree with me but I hope I gave you something to think about. Here’s a bit of reading material: