Chris Brown screwed up, again. By now, you probably know he has another assault charge stemming from a fight Brown and his bodyguard were involved in with another man. The charge was initially a felony but has been reduced to a misdemeanor. Brown, who is still on probation for molly whopping Rihanna, and the bodyguard have a court date in late November.
When I heard this news, I think I heard the internet explode too. Articles appeared and social media was rife with ranting. I’m sure there’s a white feminist somewhere giddy over the idea of having a reason to rag on Breezy. I’m looking at you Jenny. Although my disdain for post-2009 Chris Brown is strong, I have to wonder why he hasn’t gotten any real help. He is exhibiting behavior that I have seen countless young black men mirror. Prior to the Rihanna incident, Brown did an interview in which he described his tumultuous childhood.
Here’s an excerpt:
Like the day an 11-year-old Brown made a promise to his mother. He vowed that he would go to jail by age 15 for killing his abusive stepfather. “I just want you to know that I love you,” he told her in GIANT. “But I’m gonna take a baseball bat one day while you at work, and I’m gonna kill him.” Brown’s parents had separated when he was seven. When his mother remarried, she moved her son and his new stepfather to a trailer park. Then his stepfather shot himself in the head. The shot went straight through the eyes. He survived the suicide attempt but was permanently blinded.
“When you’re blind, your senses are heightened, like your smell, hearing, your sense of touch,” Brown explains to GIANT. “You can move and maneuver around your sight. But he used to hit my mom…. He made me terrified all the time, terrified like I had to pee on myself. I remember one night he made her nose bleed. I was crying and thinking, ‘I’m just gonna go crazy on him one day…’ I hate him to this day.”
Not to mention, he just bragged about being raped at 8 years old by a female babysitter. He is one of millions of black males that have experienced and witnessed trauma. Although society is progressing, men still don’t have the luxury of being able to express emotion without being ridiculed and alienated. Consequently, Brown and so many others use anger as an outlet and that anger often presents itself in the form of violence. Ultimately, we’re all affected by this issue because many of these men are our brothers, sons, fathers, uncles, friends and lovers. Many women (and men) come home to a punch in the face as their children watch because we are not addressing these deep seated issues. Instead we just throw them in jail and call it a day. Yes, abusers should be held accountable and bad behavior should never be excused but we can rehab people and hold them accountable. There are guys that want help. We just have to be willing to give it to them.
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