Editor’s Note: I realize that I have privileges as a cisgendered woman so if you see something that needs to be corrected or is ignorant, call me out. I won’t take it personally and I won’t have a bitch fit. Trigger warning is in effect because I described extremely offensive image in the body of this post.
Radio personality Mister Cee has had quite the week. After a video of him allegedly negotiating prices with a prostitute, who is a “part time drag queen” surfaced, he resigned from Hot 97. This situation has made me very uncomfortable but not for the reasons people would expect. After the controversy surrounding Mister Cee became public, the peanut gallery showed its ass in the form of rampant transphobia and homophobia.
I saw a photo of a cartoon of Mister Cee getting fellatio from a prostitute whose scrotum was reflected in the car window behind her. I’ve seen usage of words like transvestite even though it hasn’t been confirmed that person Mister Cee was dealing with is trans and even if they were, that term is a bit outdated. Stories of Mister Cee’s past rendezvous with prostitutes became public and he was found guilty in the court of public opinion. The whole situation is horrible but it shows how far this country has to go when it comes to its treatment and views of queer people, namely trans and gender nonconforming people.
Outside of doing something illegal, soliciting a prostitute, and cheating on his mate, he didn’t do anything wrong. If Mister Cee likes to have relationships with queer people or identifies as queer, there is nothing wrong with that. His sexuality is his own and he doesn’t owe anyone an explanation or anything else. He engaged in sexual relations with other human beings who are consenting adults. To paint the people he has relations with as an other that is to be avoided or quarantined sets a dangerous precedent.
Unless you pay attention to LGBT issues, you probably haven’t seen the countless articles that have been written about transwomen that have been hunted down and murdered like animals. These women did nothing to deserve this fate. They just existed. Cece McDonald, a transgendered woman that decided to fight back against her attacker, is sitting in a jail cell. Although queer rights have been propelled into the national spotlight in the form of marriage equality, the plight of transwomen, especially those of color, remain ignored. Sure, some white middle class gay or lesbian couple can march to the courthouse to put a ring on it but there are transwomen and other queer people on the streets trying to do whatever they can do to survive. When you speak of them as if you’re speaking of an animal or disease, you contribute to the idea that they are something to be exterminated.
But as a cisgendered woman, this isn’t about me and what I think. Here are some words from activist and bomb ass writer Janet Mock to illustrate why the dialogue around Mister Cee is extremely problematic:
Guess what? Many men are attracted to women, and trans women are amongst these women.
We, as a society, have not created a space for men to openly express their desire to be with trans women. Instead, we shame men who have this desire, from the boyfriends, cheaters and “chasers” to the “trade,” clients, and pornography admirers. We tell men to keep their attraction to trans women secret, to limit it to the internet, frame it as a passing fetish or transaction. In effect, we’re telling trans women that they are only deserving of secret interactions with men, further demeaning and stigmatizing trans women.
Read the rest of the article at Janet’s website.